There’s no doubt that listening to sad music feels good when we’re sad – and we absolutely should do it, sometimes. Other times, we can try to use music as a tool to constructively shape our emotional states.
I made the below playlists with two different, but overlapping goals. I made the Recovery Playlist when I wasn’t feeling very resilient – but wanted to, and I made the Growing Pains Playlist when I was feeling grief over a conflict I knew I largely needed to address internally; I picked songs that focused on unexpressed grievances, knowing that I needed to do something constructive with how I felt, lest it overflow into the real world, where I couldn’t take it back.
Music taste is highly subjective, so go ahead and make your own if the idea resonates, but the tracks don’t.
We don’t always feel the way we want to feel, and that’s ok. Anything we can do to minimise the impact of negative feelings whilst acknowledging that they’re there is a good thing.
The Growing Pains Playlist is a collection of songs about growth, grief, conflict, unwellness, and repair (think Middle Kids, Alanis Morissette, Amanda Palmer, Alice Skye etc).
A quick content note: Growing Pains contains three songs that mention suicide and/or assault (Bigger on The Inside and Another Year by Amanda Palmer, and Becoming Myself by Domo Wilson). They're beautiful songs, but just something to be aware of.